Marriages are made in heavens and broken on the earth!
This is common saying when it comes to divorce. It is a fact now, divorces are on increase now a day?s even in a country like India, where marriages are considered to be a sacred tradition. It was just a decade ago that people used to see ?Divorce? as a dirty word, but now this taboo has made its way in every class of society- rich, poor, educated, literates and more. There was a time when there used to be one divorce in 100 marriages, but now in cities like Delhi, Bangalore, the divorce rates are many times higher.
Still, it is too low as compared to countries like US where almost half of the marriages end up in divorce. Couples are seeking divorces for varied reasons ranging from domestic violence, incompatibility, financial issues, independence, and more. Let?s try to understand why the divorce rate is to increase in the context of modern society.
adultery
Infidelity is one of the top most reasons for divorce in any corner of the world. Most successful marriages do not thrive on love, but on trust and faith that both partners have in each other. Any marriage or relationship for that matter, tends to break when one partner cheats on another. When one spouse is unfaithful, a legal divorce is the only solution to seek happiness.
Lack of Communication
Communication gap or breakdown is another common reason for divorce. Lack of communication among couples is not healthy as they fail to express their feelings and it creates a lot of misunderstandings. If a spouse is introvert and does not share his emotions, the other person may make it an ego issue and it stops two way communications.
Pain created due to abuse
A marriage is sure to suffer if there is any kind of abuse in it whether it is physical, psychological or emotional; it always creates pain in the relationship. Physical abuse likes domestic violence, mishandling, or violence is solid grounds for divorce. At the same time, emotional and psychological abuse is dangerous as they hurt the emotions of the person and makes it difficult to stay in the marriage.
Financial Issues and financial inequality
Finances in a marriage are an important tool to run it and without the proper flow of finances, a marriage tends to collapse. With increasing demands and expectations that urban lifestyle poses, lack of finances is a major reason for the breaking of marriages. It may be unequal monetary status or financial responsibility on one spouse can be the reasons.
Sexual Incompatibility
To build a successful marriage, strong emotional bond is important. However to strengthen this emotional bond, physical bond between the partners is crucial. It brings closeness, feeling of satisfaction and dissolves many complexities. Sexual dissatisfaction in any of the partners can lead to frustrations and then, divorce. For any abnormal feelings, partners can seek professional counseling or medical help to avoid any drastic situation.
Dullness in the relationships
Often dullness or boredom creeps into the relationship due to monotonous lifestyle. When the initial period of staying together fades off, the couple starts facing the reality of the life. Following same routines, working like clocks, make life boring. Although some couples try to make it better by their sense of humor or enjoy their life as it is, some couples find it difficult to cope with, grow distant and eventually break off. To avoid any such situation, it is highly important to keep the spirit of life by finding happiness in the small pleasures of life like eating out together, watching a movie or travelling to new places.
Lack of adjustment
Even if you are deep into love with your spouse, it demands some kind of adjustments when you decide to live together. It?s not only marriage that demands adjustments, any relationship, be it parents and children, adjustments are important. However, often both partners show adamant attitude over petty issues to establish their dominance. It leads to degeneration of relationship and couples seek divorce to get out of this situation.
Differences in Expectations and priorities
Since both partners come from different backgrounds, both of them tend to have different patterns of thinking, different personality and traits. It is obvious to have different expectations, ambitions and priorities towards life. However, sometimes these differences are so wide that it becomes difficult for the partners to cope with them. Seeking a divorce is thought to be the best solution.
Growing financial independence among women
Traditionally, women are dependent on their husbands for
